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Rachel (Dec 5, 2002): I'M GOING THROUGH SOME OF THE SAME THINGS W/MY 12 YR.OLD. HE'S NOT ABLE TO SOCIALIZE, HE'S SLIPPING IN SCHOOL, HE WILL NOT ASSUME RESPONSIBILITY FOR HIS ACTIONS. IT'S NEVER HIM. HE HAS A HARD TIME CONCENTRATING. HE BITES HIS NAIL DOWN TO THE SKIN , HE CUTS AND TEARS THINGS UP. HE LEAVES OUT THE HOUSE WITHOUT PERMISSION, AND WILL LIE ABOUT EVERYTHING. IT IS TAKING A TOLL ON ME MENTALLY AND PHYSICALLY. I''M ON THE VERGE OF DROPPING HIM OFF AT BOOT CAMP. HE WANTS TO BE A HARDCORE BAD BOY BUT HE DOES NOT SEE THAT IN HIS HOUSEHOLD. I'M WILLING TO TRY ANYTHING AT THIS POINT BEFORE I LOSE MY SELF CONTROL ON HIM. THIS HAS BEEN GOING ON FOR YEARS AS DISCUSS IN THE ONE FAMILY'S ARTICLE. HE'S BEEN TO A COUPLE OF PSYCHIATRIST AND LIKE YOU SAID, THEY MADE ME FEEL LIKE I WAS MAKING THIS ALL UP. BUT HIS BEHAVIOR IS GETTING MORE AND MORE AGGRESSIVE IN SCHOOL AND HE'S BEEN ACTING OUT INAPPROPRIATELY IN SCHOOL SO IF ANYONE COULD PLS. GIVE ME ANY ADVISE, I SURE WOULD APPRECIATE IT. I'M IN CHICAGO, IL. SO IF YOU KNOW OF ANYONE HERE THAT I COULD CONTACT, I WOULD GREATLY APPRECIATE THE NUMBER. I CAN BE REACHED AT (773) 317-6335 AT ANY TIME IF YOU COULD GIVE ME A CALL. THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR YOUR TIME PLEASSSSSSE HELP

Anonymous (Jan 24, 2003):  I'm the mother of a 12 year old boy, diagnosed wtih Bipolar Disorder (among other things).  I'm passionately proactive and driven to kill stigma about mental illness.  I wanted to create a website to reach out and help other parents and caregivers of children with bipolar and other related disorders.  We have an affiliated message board support group and I'm really proud of what a nurturing, intelligent, proactive community we've become.  Thank you for your consideration!  www.parentingbpkids.org

Julie (April 7, 2003):  It is very difficult to be a parent of a child with bipolar.  I have a 6 year old son who is diagnosed with ADHD. Doctors will not officially diagnosis a child this young with bipolar.  With all the articles i have read and the medicine i have recommended to the doctors, i know he is bipolar.  He is currently in a class for behavior disorder.  I get called at least once or even twice a week to pick him up b/c he has hit another child or spit on the teacher.  I am very close to losing my job and i fell like my world is tumbling down around me.  I afraid to let other people watch him b/c they do not understand his illness and i am afraid they my hurt him.  Most people believe children with bipolar are spoiled and just need some discipline.  I am afraid that someone my unintentionally cause harm to him through their anger.  I feel responsible for him and must leave work to care for him.  I feel so alone, no one can possible relate to the problems a mother must endure for a child like this.  I ask God several times a day why couldn't i have just had a normal child.  Why must i fight to get his medicine right? Why must i miss work to care for him?  Why can't we go out to eat with out an episode?  I also have two girls (ages 2 and 12)  that must watch his behavior escalate to the point where he knock holes in the walls, pees in the closet and tears up his/their favorite toys.  I feel so alone and drained. I have nowhere else to turn.

Anonymous (July 10, 2003):  Dear Julie, I read your article about your son. I know exactly what your going through. You are not alone. If you are not getting help from the doctor's you are taking your son to you should keep changing until you find someone who can really help you. I have a Bipolar son who is 10.I know where your coming from. He is the youngest of 3 boys. I finally found the right doctor ,and believe me, it was a Godsend. Please don't give up. There is a reason that you are going through this. Good Luck to you.

Cathy (Aug 29, 2003):  I am no expert, but the mother of a person with mild bipolar.  I know that medicine for depression alone can be more harmful, more agitating.  It needs medicine for bipolar like lithium or the milder ones like Depakote (beware this can stimulate appetite a lot in some people) or Lamictal.  My gal takes Lamictal with no side effects.  It's great.

Tousha (Sept 21, 2003):  Dear Julie, I fully understand your dilemma.  I have a 7 yar old son that is ADHD and Bipolar...has unofficially been diagnosed.  I have been to several psychiatrist before finally finding one who has over 40 years of medical experience.  It takes time and patience...which most people with normal children do not understand why our children act the way they do.  I cry often and wonder why I was blessed with a child like this.  Most people do not want to watch my child because of his unpredictable behaviors, however, if you can find someone who has children and understands how to deal with your child, you will have a friend.

Anonymous (Sept 23, 2003):  I have an eight year old daughter. i have been dealing with this for aprox. two years. i couldn't figure out why...thought it was what all the counselors said, about stress in the home, moves ect. as it progressed (and still progressing) i saw symptoms in her that mimicked my own growing up. no-one ever knew what was wrong with me, i was just sent to hospitals for a few months at a time here and there because my rage and depression was so out of control no-one knew how to diagnose it with anything other than I MIGHT have ADD. that too was never determined. so here i am today after going to Childrens in Boston and having all sorts of testing done to see if she had anything physically wrong with her as to rule out that stuff first. the fits of rage last for hours a lot of the time, i am physically abused by her, biting, pinching, kicking, punching, tearing my clothes trashing the house and calling the police on me. my son is twelve and he IS, ADHD. she shows no symptoms of that. it has been an emotion and physical journey with searching for the right counselor and dss because a counselor thought I was abusing her when I would actually be defending myself. the adrenaline of a child in a rage I feel, is comparable to and adults'. the counselor she has now was mine as a teen and has been very helpful as she has seen many cases of bipolar children since me. and has studied it . having a history on me has been very helpful in the determination of my daughters case. I am waiting very impatiently for an upcoming appointment to see a psychiatrist that specializes in bipolar disorder children/adults.  now, maybe I can get some real help for her, and answer my own questions.

Angela (Sept 25, 2003):  My son is 11.  He is small for his age (4'3" and about 60 pounds) and at times immature.  His performance IQ is 125; whereas, his motor skills IQ is 105.  A 20 pt. drop indicates a learning disability.  He has been in trouble since the 2nd day of kindergarten and his grades have never reflected his ability.  He balks at authority, and has run and hidden a couple of times in school when he has been in trouble over the years (he is in 6th grade now).  He usually gets in trouble for behaving impulsively without regard to consequence.  He has trouble getting along with his peers, but its always THEIR fault, never his.  He over-reacts when something doesn't go his way and will rage (however, his over-reactions and rages are over with pretty quickly (less than 10 minutes)) and has the typical "cut off your nose to spite your face" reaction to getting in trouble.  His father fought me on putting him on medication.  However, when Stattera hit the market, a non-stimulant, non-narcotic alternative, he agreed to let him try it.  It has seemed to help his concentration in school and whereas before he rarely finished his classwork, now he does.  However, he still flies off the handle over inconsequential things (such as when he is unable to play a playstation game as well as he would like), and will rage when he gets in trouble, and never accepts the blame for anything.  His doctor wants to try him on Abilify, 5mg, but it scares me.  Any feedback from anyone who has a child that has taken this medication would be greatly appreciated.

Bless all of you dealing with what we are, you truly are strong men and women and parents

Trisha (Oct 16, 2003):  My 6 yr. old son has had bi-polar symptoms since he was 2. It also seems that my ex-husband is bi-polar also, although I didn't know that's what he had when we were married.  I have been going the alternative route with my son, because he also has physical problems as well.  He is probably hypothyroid, with adrenal burnout as well, and he is accumulating significant levels of lead, cadmium, aluminum, and especially copper, which is 4x the high end of normal. I'm wondering if anyone has found similar problems "underneath".  He is also losing hair, and I've started him on 5-htp, but he seems more dysphoric and easily enraged.  Why won't it work if his serotonin is low??

DD Senko (Oct 23, 2003):  I read your post about your son and the doctor suggesting Abilify. My daughter started on it a few weeks ago. She has Bipolar Disorder and OCD. Abilify worked like a dream in just 3 days I had my daughter back. No more hypomania, rages, just calm and rational. Please dont be afraid to try it. You can e-mail me for more info if you wish. DDSenko@aol.com

Anonymous (Nov 18, 2003):  I have a 15-year-old son who was diagnosed 2 years ago with Bipolar I Disorder. I have struggled with this for years  ever since he was about 5 years old. It got much worse by the time he turned 9. They first tried to say that it was ADHD and put him on Ritalin, but I saw that was not working for him. He also was an A-B student with a very high IQ. He has been hospitalized on 3 different occasions and now he is currently in a Therapeutic group home. I put him there by choice because he was doing things that were a danger to his siblings. He has been on a lot of drugs such as : Seroquel, Risperdal, Lithobid, Depakote, Zyprexa, and others. His doctor soon found out that these medications were doing harm to his liver and he was having high blood pressure. We have taken him off all the meds at this time. It has been 2 and a half months and he seems to be doing so much better. I'll write again with another update

Scmakers (April 25, 2004):  A mothers story: When my son was born he was a bright shining star, a mothers dream, cute as a button a loving as could be, he was bright and shocked everyone with his speech at an early age and his memory when read a story , he would memorize them so well you actually thought he was reading them to you, the only problem I had with chris at a young age was that he never slept, he took cat naps and would wake up with a smile, by the time he was 2 he became very hyper and never seemed to get tired he started taking things apart and breaking his toys, terrible twos they said, but the terrible part never seemed to stop, it only got worse and as years went by the behaviors started to change and that sweet little boy started to dissipate.  Strange behavior started occurring and I was wondering what is going on, after problems in preschool I sought out for help, with one disappointment after another, one hospital after another, different meds and some change but nothing that stopped reoccurring behaviors.  He has been hoarding food since I could remember and its not that he doesn't eat, because his appetite is good.  I have always heard that early treatment helps, but I am at a standstill for help and my sons lies and hostile moods are only getting worse, he is now 11 and I am scared to think what the future holds for me and my family.  I want things as normal as possible and if you give chris an inch he will always take that yard.  I know he has so much to offer and he would be a wonderful athlete and student if he can control his moods and his mind, so impulsive it is hard for him to keep friends and he has no sense of humor.  It has been a long, long road.  But when will I see that light at the end of the tunnel, and who will give me the strength to survive this now and in years to come?

Shannon (May 12, 2004): Hello my name is Shannon H. and I am a mother of a 10 yr old bipolar child. My other 7 yr old child is been evaluated in June for the disorder as well. I have started a support group in Goldsboro North Carolina called parenting of bipolar and ADHD children. It has really grown and is still growing. As well as our parents are growing to we have learned so much from each other and what a relief it is to be able to talk with someone who truly knows what you are going through. There have been times when my husband and I think we can't make it through another day. I am currently writing a book on our journey through bipolar the first year. I am hoping If I can find a publisher to have it published by Jan. of 2005. My child is currently on lithium and has only been on this med for 3 weeks so we are still in the newlywed stage of the med but we are hopeful. My child has busted through Depakote ,and Trileptal so hopefully we will be able to tell if it will work in about another month or so.
Thank you Shannon H.

Joyinexpressible (May 14, 2004): In my state, the only way to get a noncompliant person help is if they break the law. I am going through this process with my son now. He has be noncompliant since he was 18 and is now 21. The last few years have been rough and there were several times when he needed to be hospitalized but there was nothing we could do. I wish there were some middle ground. I wish there really were men in plain white coats and not cops and guns and the possibility of prison if the judge isn't in an understanding frame of mind.

We have a very dysfunctional mental health system. If it functioned better, crimes might actually be prevented and our prisons be less overcrowded. Many people with bipolar disorder do end up in prison. I pray my son will not be one of them.

KTS (June 6, 2004):  I feel that our beautiful, 21 year old energetic, artistic, creative, full of life daughter has been emotional taken from us, due to this horrific bipolar disease. As of diagnosis in Oct. 2003, have tried many meds, and now the mania controlled, and she has slowly pulled up from a deep depression, but is still, just not herself.

I hate this.  I cry all the time for her. I miss her. How oh how do I adapt?????

McMan (June 6):  Hi, KTS. Please go to the Child and Adolescent Bipolar Foundation website. There are people there who have walked in your shoes and can help.

Estelle (June 6, 2004):  I'm  from Australia. I have my 12yr old daughter who is currently seeing a therapist and a psychiatrist and a educational physiologist who  think she has hyperactivity, oppositional defiance, attention deficit, anxiety, depression. Now my husband has rapid cycling bipolar 1.,i know in my heart that she has bipolar ,her behaviour is extreme and non of the professional will entertain the idea of bipolar except for our doctor who also is a physiatrist but cant practise as one as he moved to aus from south africa and has to have lived in Australia for over 3yrs before he can practise as one. Why is it so hard to believe that a child can have bipolar, the way she is going at school, its going to be impossible for me to keep her from being permanently suspended. she abuses the teachers ,has physical fights with other students, throws chairs in class, storms out of class. and its just as bad at home. and its hard for our other daughters. I hope that in the near future that there will be some light. no child should have to live in constant turmoil and chaos.

Lexi (June 14, 2004):  Hello Flowers!

All Flowers are beautiful, fragrant and colorful!
Look towards the sunlight for food and growth.
Look towards the clouds when you are thirsty.
Reach for the stars as they call your name and rest when the sun is far.
Toss your seeds to the wind and your beauty will be florish in new lands.
I am your gardener and I keep out all the weeds and bugs that may try to destroy your beauty.
I admire you and love you as you give me great joy each day.
I would rather die than to be with out you and all of your beauty. You are all the loveliest flowers in my garden and I treasure each one...

I do not have Bipolar but I suffer watching my daughter struggle with it. I see her as a flower in my garden and she gives me great joy!

Kathy (June 17, 2004):  Our health insurance is awful. We get a whole 20 mental health visits a year, and a whopping 10,000 life time benefit. My son ADHD/BP, now almost 9, has been seeing a child psychiatrist since he was 4. I am guessing we don't have much left of his life time benefit with the testing we had done and the pdoc visits. We can't even get him into therapy, as he could only go for 15 visits a year, and that is only if he uses just 6 for his pdoc. Who, by the way, is 2 hours away because we don't have a child pdoc here where we live. We had him in play therapy, which was a 2 hour group session for 8 weeks, the two hours taking up 2 insurance sessions. It's sad, if he had a medical problem we'd have all kinds of people offering to help us. As it is, we have very little extra money due to the expense. I have lost a full time job because of the demands from his school and me having to leave to go get him, and the stress I was under. We now finally have him going to a specialized school, the psychological educational school for the public school system. Altho they still need some education on how to deal with my son, they are more than willing to learn and help.

As far as our insurance goes, I am so tired of hearing about the insurance parity law being on the agenda. And then getting teased over and over again because it was put off yet again. So what I would do to change my insurance dilemma is to have our insurance company treat mental health the same as physical health. But that just may be my dreamland ending.

Kathy mom to an ADHD/BP 9 y/o son.

Jo Anne (July 14, 2004):  It is hard - the whole thing about having a child who is bipolar.  Out of four children, my eldest is bipolar.  I felt terrible from the first.  As a baby he was moody and very cranky and I knew something was wrong.  It was 1987 and very few doctors were diagnosing children as bipolar but I kept looking and finally I found help.

The toughest part is getting appropriate special ed services at school because often the symptoms such as aggression are only looked at as social behavior problems and not symptoms of an illness.

Overall, I felt that since I am bipolar, I was able to help my son and advocate for the best treatment and care.  I was able to say I AM biploar and this is what he is going through - HELP HIM!

And people did.  He is 17 and doing very very well.  I am scared for his future but I am providing the best tools for him and I have to be confident that this will help him.

But most of all, I try to be a good role model for him.  I don't blast him with bipolar lectures or anything but I let him know how take care of himself by using myself as an example.  For example, medication compliance and hospitalization when needed and also psychotherapy when needed.

So it is horrible to know that you passed on a genetic disorder to your child but it is possible to use your experience and personal knowledge to help your child do the best possible. 

When you know the terror of this illness, it makes you strong and you fight harder to get your child the help he needs and you work harder at educating him to take care of himself  . . . even when you can't do it for yourself, you manage to do it for your child.

Post script:  my first husband and I are both bipolar -- we were not diagnosed at the time we were married.  We were diagnosed a few years after our son was born.

Fannyont (July 19, 2004):  Hi! There, I'm in serious need of help I myself have bipolar my two youngest i am certain do also, they diagnosed them as being adhd but its so much more than that. I'm having a hard time to keep my bipolar under control because of there behaviour. They keep me up all day and night. I must get about 4 hours sleep at night. This has been going on now for about 2 years straight. my younger one is 4 and the other one is 5. so they are too young to diagnosed. Because of this I'm made to deal with it. I really cant take it anymore. they have tried to kill both animals. they stay up all night , destroy their rooms and if I say something they attack me. They wont put clothes at night and I've caught them exploring , I know its normal but there as to be a limit to everything ... when they constantly sexually harass my visitors that is scary. I've told them good touch bad touch they don't seem to get it. every month I have to replace at least 500 $ worth of stuff that they've destroyed out of anger. I had to get a 3rd job just to do that. There is so much more that is going on but as we speak at the moment 1 of my boys is screaming because I wouldn't let them cut the top of the milk container ..its been going on for 2 hours..please somebody give me advice.

McMan (July 19):  Hi, Fannyont. Please contact: www.bpkids.org

Caroline (July 21, 2004):  While reading your comments on bipolar children, I think of my own daughter being a bipolar mom.  I promised God that I would dedicate my life to Him and my daughter if He would help me find cure for my "gift" as I now call it.

I have worked with young people who are bipolar, learning disability, dyslexic, physically handicapped, etc and normal. and each of these young people have a gift where they over come their handicap.  I teach them to strengthen their weakness.

Please keep working with your bipolar young person.  As a youngster, I was a good student and hard worker who excelled and finally the bipolar took over at age 16.  My father was bipolar and alcoholic and now I am divorcing a husband who is alcoholic. 

I have a beautiful daughter and we'll have a good life because God is watching over us.

Mom of Bipolar (Aug 10, 2004):  I have just found out that my daughter is Bipolar. She just turned 18 years old. She's seeing a psychiatrist and a therapist and has improved since the diagnosis but is still struggling. For the last two years we've been to a multitude of doctors/hospitals trying to find a diagnosis and/or cure for her excruciatingly painful migraines. I didn't realize until about two months ago (and neither did she completely) that the excruciating pain she was referring to was not from migraines but from the emotional pain associated with the Bipolar Disorder. Her head does hurt but it wasn't the major problem. I am reading and researching everything I can to learn how best to support her through this.   Your intelligence and straightforwardness are exactly what's needed for people like me who've not experienced it within myself, but who want to help a loved one,  to understand this painful and confusing disorder.

Angie (Oct 27, 2004):  I have a 15 year old that was diagnosed as Bipolar 1 three years ago after being diagnosed with Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis. The past three years have been a living hell. I wish this disease on no one. My daughter has been hospitalized five times. Two of them being long term. She has overdosed twice. And also been raped seven times. My sanity along with hers I think is about gone. I have been told that I can't watch her 24-7, and that I have to work, I have almost lost my husband and my son. Everything I have has gone to my daughter. She is getting out of the hospital Monday. I am scared, horrified, and actually feel peace as long as she is in the hospital. The fears that overcome me when I know she is coming home is indescribable. Her life has been demolished by our small town. No one understands her weaknesses or should I call the \"trigger points\" nor do they want to learn. The insurance company will not pay for her to go to a long term program. I fear that this time next year I may be putting her casket in the ground instead of staying up for two days looking for her. A parent does not know the fear and devastation until they have a child with a mental disability that you cannot help. Your hands are tied when other kids make fun of them, and their diseases. Your hands are tied when they can't make it in school because you can't afford anything else. You feel as if you have no control over your child. I have a Bipolar child and have told everyone, the little comments and smirks are enough to make you sick. The anger that builds up cannot be explained. I have lived every parents nightmare, and will keep living it until the day I die unless they find the right combination of drugs to stabilize her moods, oh and lets not forget, she can't throw them up either after taking them. So therefore after taking her meds you watch her for an hour. My home is now a prison, my life is my daughter, I cringe when the phone rings, I cry when she hits me, and I cry when she says I am sorry, I really don't remember that. It is because she was psychotic at the time and on pills and alcohol. This is my life. And no one to help.

Susan (Nov 3, 2004): I am the mom of a bi-polar 21 year old son, who like you all, has suffered tremendously, even to the point of a suicide attempt for pdoc and med failure. I think two things are important. One is prayer and attending healing services from mainline (ie Catholic/mainline Christian) healing priests (i.e. see www.stmarymacclenney.com (Father Jose's story) for priest's near death experience during which he was given healing gift). God does heal; I know this personally and from many others. Second, it is important to read all you can about the lit on the meds and second guess your pdoc. John's three former pdocs were no good AT ALL. The meds were wrong dosage, wrong meds, etc. Very poor. Do everything you can to get the best pdoc you can. Give your pdoc a chance but not every chance. Do not be bullied or intimidated. Be on the lookout for people who can get you connected to better pdocs. And see them more than they want to see you if possible. Squeaky wheel gets the grease. May God bless you, heal you and comfort you.

Becca (Nov 14, 2004):  I might be only 16, but i have seen the effects of what bipolar disorder can bring to even the youngest of the bunch. I thought i was just depressed at first, and my complications is school could have just been A.D.D. and/or A.D.H.D. I took a closer look into the symptoms and realized that i am bipolar. In no way would i consider this a gift. I hate the way i feel and i am incredibly self-conscious. About a half a year ago i tried to O.D., but it didn't work the way i planed, i just woke up in the middle of the night and threw up. Nothing is going good for me right now. My family doesn't even know that I am bipolar, so as you can tell I am unmedicated, and i don't know how to talk to them about it. They might have a feeling i am, but i don't think my mom will put me on any medications.

Mike (Nov 15, 2004):  Hey i read some of your site, Im 15 both parents are divorced well let me start over my 6th grade year my best friend had life threatening cancer then my 7th grader year my dad did and an 8th grader i knew committed suicide as well then in my 8th grade year i was like yes fresh start but no 2 close people i knew committed suicide one then the other ripped away from me then my freshman year again yes fresh start but now i was so depressed i started taking it out on my mom we got in fights i was abusing her im an ass for that and i can never for give myself anyway i was sent with a days notice to California where i reside today 4 weeks ive been here no friends no family no life i enjoyed what u wrote tho even tho i still don't feel any better its nice to know someone like u understands. ~thanks for listening

Michelle (Dec 7, 2004):  I'm a 16 year old girl from florida who's gone back and forth from believing in myself--believing in life in everything--to not even knowing who i am--not knowing whets real anymore, sometimes i even dont believe im alive--i get these crazy delusions that i know arent real--somewhere inside me--i know that these delusions are not possible, in normal reality--but there's always that part of me that believes in them so much that it makes me believe im nuts. i mean i don't really know where anything is leading--one minute, and the next i have everything figured out. i can completely relate to you people who feel like they've lost all control of their minds--i mean it seems like sometimes my mind is completely separated from my self and it thinks whatever it wants, compulsive thoughts race through my brain, pointless--leading nowhere--sometimes it seems they're leading somewhere but what? to something that i don't really want? but my mind wants?

my mind is not me. my mind is a tool for my soul. yea that's what i tell myself now, but what happens when my mind takes over and i once again believe that i am my mind? then i just fall deeper and deeper into the madness...it doesn't even seem like there's a method to this madness! but then i have a glimpse in one moment where i see how everything fits together--- every choice i've ever made seems to have been the right one, be it that it merely taught me a good lesson. 

One thing that sticks out in my mind is a conversation i had with my dad at taco bell last year some time--i don't really remember what we were talking about but he started saying something about how his brother started overanylysing everything and he got tangled up in his own mind--and thats why he went nuts. so he told me its not good to be too smart. his brother was very smart apparently--once again alot like me--but those words hit me like a semi--head on--that's exactly what i was doing---overanylysing everything and getting confused and tangled up in my own self created world---my dad did not say this to scare me the way it did-- he probably said it to scare me a little about not getting into psychology and the weird stuff his brother was into--but little did he know, i was already swimming around in a mess of a mind already--and trust me, it was hard to hide my weirdness from him--i could sense when he sensed it on my and i dont want to hurt him anymore than hes been by his brothers suicide--so i dont ask him about it much, but im dying to. i need to know the details--i need to know that im not headed in the same direction!

PS (Nov 30, 2004):   I have a 14year old son who has bp and has taken just about every thing you could think of. Rages are getting worse and so is his temper. Takes all the angry out on me. Has been home bound since shool started this because he would make himself sick. Please is there anyone out there that can help me, we live in Kinston, N.C. thank you

Mom of Bipolar (Dec 22, 2004):  This website has saved me. I was the first to diagnose my daughter's mania when all others blamed drugs. (she was later drug-tested and found drug-free). My sweet daughter has been on 20 different meds and had 3 hospitilizations in the past 4 years. Her personality is no longer her own. She suffers every day and yet holds down an demanding job and cares for a demanding 2 year old. I curse this bipolar gene we may have given her. thanks for the support of this website.

Godschildren (Jan 9, 2005);  My bipolar Daughter My daughter is turning 15 in a few weeks and she is bipolar and ODD. I have been taking her to doctors for about four years. She has been on a lot of medications. She has always done good in school. I have took her to hospitals( sort term and long term ones), but nothing has helped. I have changed doctors. I worry that the meds that she is on will hurt her in the long run. I even tried to get help from the law about the things that she was doing. She would hit her brother and sister and try to kill her self. But that was a dead end for a long time. Well one day she tried to kill her self and the law took her. We went to court and it backed fired on us. They took her from our home. She is temp in the states hands. we pay child care of a 130.00 week. This is the bad part, if she does not do good with the state i will lose her. There leaving it up to her to be good to come home, and they know that she is bipolar. My lawyer tells me that I can do anything. I only see her two sundays a month and I do get to call her everyday. My heart is broken and I want her home in my arms not some stranger. I hope that someone can relate to me about this. Thanks

Bipolar mom (Jan 13, 2005):  On being a bipolar mom There are days when I wish my little girl of only 10 would get over this bipolar disease. I wonder if she'll ever stop the raging that is affecting all of us: her father, her sister, and me. Being bipolar when so young, she experiences rages that are totally out of control, typically yelling at all of us or just one of us. Her sister now tries to hide herself in the basement to avoid her, but that doesn't help..it only makes her rage more..almost knocking down doors. I recently had to take her sister in to see a psychologist because she doesn't understand all of this...and the psych told me to concentrate on her only...dismissed my concern on my bipolar child of 10. I don't think they truly know what this is like...perhaps if they lived in my house for 2 weeks then maybe they would. Now, the psychologist tells me to get a second opinion for the bipolar...what good will that do? I feel I could write the book on dealing with a bipolar child..I know there is much more to come...so for the person who asked what it is like for the mom of a bipolar child...I hope that this helps you...Patience is indeed a virtue!

Kate (Jan 26, 2005):  I am a 16 year old girl and I was told I was bipolar at age 13. I was scared at first, but than I relized that there is a way to work around it. I want to placement and detention because I tryed to kill myself and others. for example I was arrested because I put a gun to my brothers head. I had no remorse at the time, but after getting help I had so much remorse about it. So much that to this day I try to have a heathy relationship with him. It has been hard to get the trust back from my family, but with the help of my medication and my therpy I have gained every thing back that I have lost. plus people understand me now. I dont have to worry about people being afraid of me, dont get me wrong I still get called weird or retarded, but thats only because they dont understand me. Im not retarded Im actually really smart I talk collage classes at school for practice. So I think that bipolar can be a gift or not it depends on how you look at it.

Daneen 3/11:   My 13 year old is bipolar and he is out of control.  He is to my first marriage.  I have been remarried to a great husband who is very supportive of my son.  The only problem I have, major problem, is that my ex-husband is in so much denial.  He will not cooperate by giving our son his meds. every other weekend.  He is also telling him that I am drugging him and making all this up.  My ex is always putting me down and swearing in front of him to me.  There is no support and he has told many of our son's doctor off.  My son is slowly turning against me and when he hits a major rage, he is usually hitting me.  I need help on how to fight this in court with getting the ex out of the picture so we can get some help and make him come to terms that he is bipolar.  I need some advice.

Rachel 4/7:  My husbands child is an extremely intelligent nine year old, diagnosed with Bi-polar last year. Although she does well in school with no out-brakes, and good grades, the at home environment is like a prison/military camp. She is un controllable and extremely defiant, down to the little things like: getting up, showered and brushing her hair and teeth in the morning. This article really opened my eyes. I never knew the bed-wetting, staying up late, trouble getting up in the morning and feeling of parental abandonment were all part of this disorder. We sent her for every test known to man for the bed-wetting, with all results negative. We even went as far as putting her on meds for the bed-wetting that work occasionally. Here it's all apart of this disorder. Thank you for your insight. 

Erin 4/19:  I am an extremely late night owl and also Bipolar.  I believe my bipolar was caused by sleep interruption and deprivation I suffered because forced to go to public school in morning.  I am extremely better now that I allow myself to sleep when it is normal, natural and healthy for me to sleep -- usually about 5 AM to 1 PM.  Forcing night owls to get up in morning is abuse with devastating, often fatal, health consequences.

Barbara  2/20:  My daughter Annie died in October because the California Department of Mental health decided she was not sick enough to continue at a therapeutic boarding school for bipolar disorder.  She was in the the facility for 6 weeks when they cut her insurance.  She was 14 years old.  They told us that since she was not actively trying to hurt herself or others that she no longer needed help.  She came home and in 5 weeks she died from suicide.  No one said she was suicidal.  She was so happy up to the night before she died. We can not understand why none of the therapist even mentioned that we should watch out for suicide.  We did not know that depression = suicide risk.  If only all the people who treated her would have cared enough to help her live.

Michelle 7/25:  I just wanted to thank you all for posting your experiences and fears.  I am considering adopting a baby who's birth mother is bipolar. I think I'm more comfortable with the idea of being able to manage the disorder for a child having read your comments.  Thanks. 

Momma Woz 7/26:  My sun is Bi-Polar.. he is 23 years old.  Two times in his life he was arrested for assault.  Both incidences came when he was in full blown mania.  The persons he attacked did not press charges, they wanted him to get help.  The State Prosecutors Office in both instances picked up the charges.

Both times my son went, by his own choice, from the jail to the psychiatric ward.  This is what EVERYONE involved wanted.

Do I think it fair to the patient that he be punished?  NO.  Especially because it adds so much stress to an already bad situation.  Stress is a trigger for many bi-polars.

I just wonder if there is not a better solution.  OR is it that this is how the courts want to set people up as an EXAMPLE to others? 

Shelly 7/27: I am myself a child suffering from bipolar disorder and from manic depression and its not fun. they need better medication for teens because our hormones are off the wall anyway. i was on this one medication and it seemed to be working until i missed one day and then went the rest of the week wanting to commit suicide. now i am on great medicine that i hope will keep me well for as long as it takes.

Daneen 3/11   My 13 year old is bipolar and he is out of control.  He is to my first marriage.  I have been remarried to a great husband who is very supportive of my son.  The only problem I have, major problem, is that my exhusband is in so much denial.  He will not cooperate by giving our son his meds. every other weekend.  He is also telling him that I am drugging him and making all this up.  My ex is always putting me down and swearing in front of him to me.  There is no support and he has told many of our son\'s doctor off.  My son is slowly turning against me and when he hits a major rage, he is usually hitting me.  I need help on how to fight this in court with getting the ex out of the picture so we can get some help and make him come to terms that he is bipolar.  I need some advise.

Rachel 4/7:  My husbands child is an extremely intelligent nine year old, diagnosed with Bi-polar last year. Although she does well in school with no out-brakes, and good grades, the at home environment is like a prison/military camp. She is un controlable and extremely defiant, down to the little things like: getting up, showered and brushing her hair and teeth in the morning. This article really opened my eyes. I never knew the bed-wetting, staying up late, trouble getting up in the morning and feeling of parental abandonment were all part of this disorder. We sent her for every test known to man for the bed-wetting, with all results negative. We even went as far as putting her on meds for the bed-wetting that work occasionally. Here it's all apart of this disorder. Thank you for your insight. 

Erin 4/19:  I am an extremely late night owl and also Bipolar.  I believe my bipolar was caused by sleep interruption and deprivation I suffered because forced to go to public school in morning.  I am extremely better now that I allow myself to sleep when it is normal, natural and healthy for me to sleep -- usually about 5 AM to 1 PM.  Forcing night owls to get up in morning is abuse with devastating, often fatal, health consequences.

Michelle 7/25:  I just wanted to thank you all for posting your experiences and fears.  I am considering adopting a baby who's birth mother is bipolar. I think I'm more comfortable with the idea of being able to manage the disorder for a child having read your comments.  Thanks. 

Momma Woz 7/26:  My sun is Bi-Polar.. he is 23 years old.  Two times in his life he was arrested for assault.  Both incidences came when he was in full blown mania.  The persons he attacked did not press charges, they wanted him to get help.  The State Prosecutors Office in both instances picked up the charges.

Both times my son went, by his own choice, from the jail to the psychiatric ward.  This is what EVERYONE involved wanted.

Do I think it fair to the patient that he be punished?  NO.  Especially because it adds so much stress to an already bad situation.  Stress is a trigger for many bi-polars.

I just wonder if there is not a better solution.  OR is it that this is how the courts want to set people up as an EXAMPLE to others? 

Shelly 7/27:  I am myself a child suffering from bipolar disorder and from manic depression and its not fun. they need better medication for teens because our hormones are off the wall anyway. i was on this one medication and it seemed to be working until i missed one day and then went the rest of the week wanting to commit suicide. now i am on great medicine that i hope will keep me well for as long as it takes.

Nicole 9/16:  My son started Pre-K in August of 2004. We had never really had any MAJOR problems out of him until then, except, of course, the normal "boy stuff". Not even 2 weeks into the school year I started receiving phone calls at work about his behavior. It usually happened in the morning or as they were trying to wake him up from his nap. My four-year-old was suspended from Pre-k, a non-required grade, three times. Once for spitting in the principal's face which was the last straw after throwing everything off of her desk, picking up the chairs in her office and throwing them around and giving her some of his "opinion" about her by calling her stupid and other names. The second time was for kicking the teachers during one of his fits, and the last time was for throwing scissors across the room of course during his tantrum. I had never personally seen one of his fits until I started taking him to a therapist after he was suspended the first time. The very first time in the therapist's office and we were "privileged" enough to see one of his fits first hand. I broke down and cried like a baby. It didn't even seem like my child doing these things. He seemed to have so much anger in his eyes. He has been seeing the same therapist for almost a year now and nothing has really changed. He started Kindergarten this August and he still has his fits, but the teacher he has this year, God Bless Her, is wonderful with him. Even she has said that during her 32 years of teaching she has never in her life seen such a thing. Since the time at the therapist's office, he has thrown fits at home too. His paternal grandmother is diagnosed bipolar and although his father is not diagnosed, I can honestly say I believe that he is too. My oldest son is on Adderall for ADHD and at first that is what I thought may be wrong with my youngest, but now I'm not so sure. I'm at a standstill. WHAT DO I DO NOW????

McMan 9/16:  Hi, Nicole. You need to go to an expert - preferably a team of experts - specializing in treating children. You child can be suffering from any of a number of possible ills, and only a series of long and careful exams will it be possible to tease out the correct diagnosis. Your input will greatly help, and a good clinician is sure to take into account the family history of bipolar. Do not give up hope. With proper diagnosis and treatment, your child has an excellent chance of a rewarding life.

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John McManamy


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