The person who finally figures out relationships will make more money than Bill Gates. All rational expectations are off the table ...

Validating Family Pain



HAVING A MENTAL ILLNESS poses serious challenges in our relationships. So does being chronically normal. The "them" and "us" is artificial - I qualify as both someone living with mental illness and as a family member/loved one, as do a lot of you. The real challenge is reaching an understanding and making it work.

Just about all books and articles treat the one with depression or bipolar as the problematic one in the relationship. Here, we introduce a novelty: Sometimes the "normal" partner can be the real pain in the neck. It's been known to happen.

The pic to illustrate Relationships is a close-up of Klimt's "The Kiss." Ah, the possibilities. Alas, the ambiguities.



Validating Family Pain

What is the rational response to an irrational loved one?

My Loved One Doesn't Understand - Really?

We may have depression or bipolar, but our loved ones suffer from it.

Please Tell Me It's Bipolar

Too often, loved ones are looking for a quick meds fix.

Emotional Safety - My Bottom Line

I need to feel I'm not walking on eggshells, too.

The Bipolar Giving Trap

Often it's the one with bipolar who ends up feeling violated.

The Whole Bipolar Sex Thing

Why bipolars make the best lovers - and worst, plus more..

Choosing a Partner - Good Luck Deciding

And you thought thinking had something to do with it.

Relationships - Good Luck Perceiving

What is the rational response to an irrational loved one?

Relationships - Dealing with Life's Surprises

And you thought you could reason with your partner.